What to do in the present moment

If you’re feeling attacked or that your boundaries are being crossed:

• Try to remain calm (your head falls of when you go into fight or flight)
• Take 5 deep breaths immediately
• Assess the situation – have body and mind awareness
• If they’ve asked something of you, tell them “I’ll think about it” – Stay true to yourself – only do what you feel is right for you but obviously thinking of the other person as well
• Write down the event once it’s over to then dissect the situation in your journal that night
  • write down a brief summary of the scenario
  • who you were with
  • how you felt – what was happening in your mind and body at the time
  • what was happening before the event
  • what you did to calm yourself
  • what you would change/do differently for the next encounter with someone with the same personality