The definition of expectation is: a strong belief that something will or should happen.
This is an unrealistic way of going through life. Putting your belief into something and anticipating that it should happen. Unfortunately, as much as we’d like, we can’t control the future for us or for anyone else, therefore expectation creates disappointment; with outcomes including people and their behaviour toward us and others. way of trying to control someone or the situation. We have all heard and learned that you can’t control anyone, or make anyone do what they don’t want to do without their own free will (that’s called manipulation), so why should we expect that someone would be exactly how we want them to be?
It would feel very freeing if everyone allowed you to be exactly who and what you want to be, wouldn’t it? Of course. That makes your heart soar and your soul feel free. Can you do the same for someone else? Putting expectation (or conditions) on what someone else needs to be for you, is unrealistic (example: she needs to be this certain way for me to feel secure, complete, happy, fulfilled, not disappointed, etc). It seems a bit silly now that it’s been put into perspective, doesn’t it? Everyone should be allowed to be exactly who they want to be (without hurting any in the process). Can you just let them be who they are and try not to control the situation?
Can you truly LET IT GO and release expectations that you have? Can you truly allow others to be who they want to be, and not who you want/need them to be? Can you let go of your desired outcome of a conversation and just communicate to find out more information?